Just say no… but it’s not always that easy is it? No is a difficult word to accept regardless of the situation, but sometimes is necessary.
As someone that runs a business and encounters different people in different scenarios, there have been many times where saying no has made me feel somewhat guilty. I felt as if I’d made the other person feel negative in a way because I’ve rejected their request or offer.
A common example for me when running Unique Boutique London is collaborating with influencers. I’ve had a few bad experiences with influencers in the past and made the decision to not use that form of marketing for my fashion business going ahead. Not to say influencer marketing isn’t great for businesses when it’s done right, but it hasn’t been suitable for mine.
I encounter some amazing influencers online that have great approaches when it comes to doing what they do best, but I’ve had to say no to them. Despite them having nothing to do with my negative experiences with influencers in the past, I had to decline their collaboration offers because I’m focused on other forms of marketing instead. This is when the guilt likes to creep in.
Over time I’ve had to learn that not only in business but in life being able to say no is an essential skill to have. It’s how you say no that matters. I don’t project my negative experiences with past influencers on to new influencers that approach me wanting to work with Unique Boutique London. I decline collaborations in a professional manner and actually thank them for thinking of Unique Boutique London. There’s no need to be rude or malicious when saying no to people, and if you are polite about it, you’ll no longer feel guilty when put in that position.
When it comes to knowing what works for you and what doesn’t, it’s up to you to express that. You shouldn’t feel bad when making decisions about saying no to something that you feel isn’t the best for you. Think about how you would like to be spoken to in a scenario involving rejection in some form and be considerate to others how you would like them to be considerate to you. It all starts with mindfulness.
Approaching difficult situations with this mindset allows you to basically treat people how you would like to be treated when hearing the n word. You understand that you’re doing what you need to do, but you’re also considerate of the other party at the same time. Business, friendships and relationships all come with similar ups and downs, but as you learn from experience, you’ll become more robust to difficult situations like these.
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